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Laumann (1999) designed a national probability that is 97% representative of the American population and found overall the total prevalence of sexual dysfunction was higher for women than men (43% v 31%).
Women who have little interest in sex do so because they have arousal and desire problems –men don’t. That is, if a man isn’t having sex regularly its probably due to lack of opportunity whereas for women its due to a problem. Some 36% have arousal and desire problems which cause a circular effect where arousal and desire are the chicken and egg conundrum. The effects for women on their quality of life are great with significantly more unhappiness, and less physical and emotional wellbeing. Typically, only 10% of men and 20% of women sought medical help for their sexual problems. Research reveals:
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Sexual Dysfunction in the United States The myth perpetuated in popular media that everyone is having great sex is false according to a recent study reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association. Researchers from the University of Chicago asked nearly 3,000 men and women across the United States whether, in the past year, if they had gone through several months in which they:
The study revealed that 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men said they persistently experienced one or more of the above problems with sex. Among other findings from the study:
The study appeared in the February 10.,1999 edition of the Journal of the American Medical Association, Vol. 281, No. 6. General Sexuality Research Trends Frequency
of Sex
People from Thailand had the lowest average sexual frequency at 64 times per year, half the frequency of Americans. Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey Impact of Age on Sexual Frequency The same study by Durex identified the most sexually active age ranges. The study concluded that people aged 20-39 make love most frequently followed by people over the age of 40 and finally, those under 20.
Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey Gender Differences in Sexual Frequency Durex also studied gender differences between different age groups. The study found that women are more sexually active in their teenage years than male counterparts. However, when they reach 40, men are more sexually active compared to women the same age. The greatest change of sexual frequency for males occurs during the teen years when their sexual frequency peaks. Women on the other hand, experience their most dramatic change in sexual frequency over age 40. Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey Frequency of Sex by Relationship Status The status of a relationship has a major impact on the frequency of sex. Couples who are cohabiting, but not married, are the most sexually active. They make love 146 times a year compared to single people, who are not in a steady relationship and who have sex 69 times per year. Couples with children have sex more often (115 times a year) than people without children (103 times a year). Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey Factors Most Important When Making Love Globally, the most important factor in making love is satisfying one's partner. Thirty-four percent of respondents placed this as a top priority. Personal satisfaction ranked second (27%), followed by not catching HIV/AIDS (18%), avoiding unwanted pregnancy (16%), and avoiding sexually transmitted diseases other than AIDS (5%). Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey Dream Cream may well be able to satisfy your partner, and that is the top priority. Dream Cream can get things started. Sexual Priorities and Nationality Different nationalities varied in the factors they rated as most important when having sex. Americans were the most selfish lovers, with 61 percent rating personal satisfaction as a top priority, followed by Russians (42%). Canadians are the world's most considerate lovers; 51 percent rank partner satisfaction as a top priority. Mexicans follow with 50 percent, with the British at 47 percent. Respondents from Hong Kong and Poland were least likely to rate partner satisfaction as their number one priority. Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey Age of First Sex Globally, the average age of first sexual intercourse is 17.6 years. Men have their first sexual experience at a younger age than women (17.3 versus 17.8 years). The trend toward having sex at a younger age is accelerating with each decade. Respondents over 40 reported their first sexual experience at an average age of 18.6 years, compared to an average age of 18 years for 30-39 year-olds. Americans are the youngest to start having sex with an average of 16.2 years, followed by Britain (16.7), Brazil (16.9), France (17) and South Africa (17.1). People in Hong Kong (18.9 years) and Poland (18.7) wait the longest to have their first sexual experience. Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey It's ironic, but years ago it used to be that women were frigid - that was the phrase used," Dr Green said. "Now impotence is in the air. Just take a look at all those ads for the men's sexual clinics. Guys are having a tough time getting it up." It's her belief that it is the post-1960s sexually liberated woman, uninhibited about asking for exactly what she wants, who puts men on the spot. "I mean, men used to say, 'Wouldn't it be wonderful to have the woman do this and that', but now, when it's happening, it's just not working. Men psychologically want to feel like the hunter, not the hunted." Dr King said the old myths about sex - such as masturbation causes blindness, men are victims of their lust or that women don't enjoy sex - have simply been swapped with new ones. According to Dr King, new myths include the belief everybody must want and enjoy sex, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Another is that sex is an Olympian sport where everybody goes for gold on every occasion. Well then, just how much is normal? According to a recent global sex survey, the amount of sex you have can vary depending where you live. A survey of 18,000 people from 27 countries carried out by condom manufacturer Durex last year found Australians pretty close to average in the world ranking table. With an average 98 sessions a year (not quite twice a week), we are ahead of New Zealand's 86 times, but well below the US (132), Russia (122), France (121) and Britain (109). As the survey is based on self-reporting, maybe the most honest nation is simply Japan, whose subjects reported having sex just 37 times a year. Young Australian adults usually have sex for the first time at age 17 and four months, while US teenagers start a year earlier - 16 and four months. If you're aged between 25 and 34, you're more likely to be having sex than any other age group. They set the pace at an average 113 times a year, compared with 89 times for the 16 to 20-year-olds. But calculating the average amount of sex for couples into weekly sessions of three times a week can be misleading, said Dr King, author of Good Loving, Great Sex (Random House, $18.60). "People can get uptight about their sense of entitlement to sex," she said. "It's a bit like salaries - everyone thinks everyone else is getting more than they are." Instead, it's more akin to what she calls a "binge/fast" sexual frequency. Rather than a set two or three times a week, couples go for a couple or several weeks without sex, because they are busy, stressed or barely have time alone together. But when the conditions are right, they are much more likely to be sexually active and may have sex two or three days in a row. She also points out that sex frequency changes during the relationship and that couples shouldn't use the high amount of sex they enjoy at the start as a yardstick forever after. But married couples still come out engaging in more sex than singles, with the global survey showing that unmarried couples living together have the most sex, 146 times a year, followed by married couples (98) and then singles (49). The most common problem seen at the Australian Centre for Sexual Health is "desire discrepancy", where one partner seeks more sex than the other. Often when men say they want more sex, they are really saying they want more love and affection. "It's easier to ask for sex than emotional comfort," Dr King said. Yet the reverse tends to be true for women, so that "while men need sex to become intimate, women tend to need intimacy to desire sex". Author and sex educator Jo-Anne Baker, who gives sex advice on the new Australian women's website called womenzone.com.au, said the internet had "really changed the dating game". "In the past they would never have gone to a bar, but now they can make friends in the chat rooms or meet through the dating services," Ms Baker said. Some other trends she has seen over the past decade include the creation of an entire new genre of "erotic videos" for women, which basically are like normal movies, with a lot of sex thrown in. She also points to the fact that department stores now sell a range of very sexy lingerie, such as corsets, g-strings and so on, which were much more specialised 20 years ago. "Madonna really made that fetish stuff mainstream," she said. Viagra for women has also been touted as the next big thing to happen as a sex trend, but Dr King has her doubts. Despite being involved in the international clinical trials of Viagra research for women, she's wary about the concept of "pharmacological help" for women. "Women's sexuality is a lot more complicated than popping a pill," she said. "And no amount of medication can make up for an unhappy relationship, poor sexual technique or a tired, exhausted, stressed-out woman." Generally, women don't need to "perform" as such during sex, according to Dr King. It's more a case of women wanting pleasure, sensation and feeling. "A pill will not provide that," she said. "Viagra simply enhances the natural process of sexual arousal. There is no pill yet that will create sexual arousal. But there is one sure aphrodisiac - love." The question about what constitutes ideal foreplay in the global sex survey highlights the difference between men and women. The top answer for men was oral sex. For women, the top choice was split equally between touching/feeling, kissing and a romantic dinner. Another finding from the survey was that for women, the average number of men they'll have sex with over their lifetime is 4.6. This compares with a claimed 11.7 for men. However, almost four in 10 married people have only ever had one partner, compared with 19pc of single people. Communication
about Sex in Long Term Relationships Finding #1 Men and women have a different interest in sex.
The women are not waiting or rejecting but just don’t think about it as often – no wonder when 40% aren’t getting what they want from sex. Finding
#2
Finding
#3
The Impact of Sex Therapy on Sexual Behaviours and Marital Communication Couples who participated in a sex therapy program that included viewing sexually explicit audiovisual slides and movies, demonstrated changes in sexual behaviour, sexual desires, sexual communication and marital communication according to a recent study. The research studied the impact of sexual therapy on sexual behaviours and marital communication, and was conducted by the University of Texas Medical Branch. Treatment
Program Sexual
Behaviour
Communication
This study appeared in the Spring 1981 edition of the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, Vol. 7, No. 1. What is normal arousal? Women
have described the sensations of orgasm as beginning with a
sense of suspension, quickly followed by an intensely
pleasurable feeling that usually begins at the clitoris and
spreads throughout the pelvis. The genitals are often
described as becoming warm, electric or tingly, and these
physical sensations usually spread through some portion of the
body. Most women also feel muscle contractions in their vagina
or lower pelvis, often described as "pelvic
throbbing". Sex
Response Cycle refers
to the set of physiological and emotional changes that lead to
and follow orgasm. Different researchers have constructed
various models of the phases of the sex response cycle.
Usually, these models include three, four, or five distinct
phases, with the exact components of each phase differing
across models. Helen Singer Kaplan proposed the Triphasic
Concept of human sexual response involving three stages:
desire, excitement, and orgasm. In his book
Human Sexual Response, Lief described five sexual
response phases: desire, arousal, vasocongestion, orgasm, and
satisfaction. William
Masters and Virginia Johnson, prominent sex researchers
and therapists, suggested that there are four identifiable
phases in the sex response cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm,
and resolution. Using various instruments designed to monitor
changes in heart rate and muscle tension, Masters and Johnson
were able specify the bodily changes that characterize each of
these phases. The
first phase, excitement, can last for just a few minutes or
extend for several hours. Characteristics of this phase
include: an increasing level of muscle tension, a quickened
heart rate, flushed skin (or some blotches of redness may
occur on the chest and back), hardened or erect nipples, and
the onset of vasocongestion, resulting in swelling of the
woman's clitoris and labia minora and erection of the man's
penis. Other changes also occur. In the woman, the vaginal
walls begin to produce a lubricating
liquid, her uterus elevates and grows in size, and her
breasts become larger. At the same time, the woman's vagina
swells and the muscle that surrounds the vaginal opening,
called the pubococygeal muscle, grows tighter. These changes
prepare the woman's body for orgasm and were called the
"orgasmic platform" by Masters and Johnson.
Additional changes in men include elevation and swelling of
the testicles, tightening of the scrotal sac, and secretion of
a lubricating liquid by the Cowper's glands. COMPETITION Early
last year, the first report on Viagra in women gloomily
suggested that women were beyond the reach of
medications-three in four failed to report a benefit. But that
study turned out to have been flawed. Last year, Goldstein and
the Berman sisters reported on 48 women who'd gone through the
same routine as Paula. Overall, after taking Viagra,
physiologic measurements significantly increased,-and so did
subjective satisfaction. Ito,
Trant and Polan (1998) administered Larginine and other
nutritional supplements to women and found after 4 weeks 73%
improved their satisfaction with sex, compared to a placebo
group of 37%. Typically
they include Tribulus Terrestris (a traditional Ayurvedic
herb), Korean Ginseng, Milk Thistle, Ginko Biloba (circulatory
stimulant), Muira Puama (unknown mechanism of effect on
libido), Epimedium Sagittatum (horny goat weed increases sperm
production),Damiana (aromatic herb and relaxant), Wild yam
(naturally occurring DHEA) Usually
a range of minerals (Iron, Calcium and Zinc for serum
testosterone) and vitamins such as A, B, E and C are included
as antioxidants. CRITICISMS Too much of the research about women's sexual problems is funded by drug companies and narrowly conforms to their interests. There's just too much emphasis on claiming things are physical and then selling products. The pharmaceutical companies want products they can market, which I distinguish from products that will help women with their sexuality. Their criteria for many trials exclude women with so many real-world problems -- they exclude women with psychological problems, or partner and relationship problems. They're interested in studying women with purely physical problems. So they find drugs that work on these physical problems, but then their marketing strategy, as we've seen with Viagra, is to market romance. Their strategy is not to be specific and say something works with this kind of person who has this specific kind of problem. They just say, "Use the drug, start dancing I'm certainly not going to say these women don't know whether they feel better or not. But I am going to say it's not the first and only way to go. On the other side of the issue are many therapists, who see the psychological aspects of this problem as most significant. Sex therapists use counselling skills when they solve sexual problems, and see products like Femprox as shortcuts that threaten both their wallets and their talk-it-out sensibilities. Lilly Tanner, Ph.D., of Miami Beach, Fla., grumbles that "women do better when they're involved in a good relationship than they do when they're putting creams on themselves. It [Femprox] is just a nonsense thing that the pharmaceuticals have come up with." Steven Braveman (M.A., MFT) of Monterey, Calif., is apparently even more allergic to vaginal ointments. "Ninety-eight percent of pre-orgasmic women can easily have an orgasm after they work through their issues in a behavioural, therapeutic format," he fumes. "Maybe it's trauma at an early age, or a strong religious message that sexuality is evil, or they might be married to a man who is ignorant of female genitalia." "What I fear," he continues, "what we [sex therapists] are concerned about, is that our society is medicalizing, pathologizing, an emotional or relationship problem. If women buy into the idea that they can just be pharmaceutically treated to enjoy sex, we are essentially turning them into prostitutes so that they will perform on demand. The development of these creams represents a very poor turn of events in the history of our sexuality." Certainly an eloquent plea by the Californian, but absolutely erroneous, snorts New Yorker Kaminetsky. "That's not true!" he rails when informed of Braveman's statistic that medical intervention is 98 percent unnecessary. "What about post-menopausal women, when their bodies go through hormonal and vascular changes?" Additional physiological causes of FSAD and FSD that the urologist lists on his Web site are "nerve damage, smoking, elevated cholesterol [and] long-distance bicycle riding." "Some people don't see the big picture," Kaminetsky says, defending his potions. "Even if the problem is psychological, if we can provide a cream that is quickly effective, why should anyone be opposed to that? I'm in the business of helping people." After Viagra's success, it's clear that any amorous medicine is destined to become a top seller, whether patients decide to use it in conjunction with therapy or as an enhancement they can apply themselves. REFERENCES Brock G. New Horizons in Erectile Dysfunction Therapy Medscape 2001. Gillis N. Panax Ginseng Pharmacology: A Nitric Oxide Link. Biochemical Pharmacology Vol 54, p 1-8 1997. Laumann E, Paik A and Rosen R. Journal of the American Medical Association. 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